Encuentra Tu Gente

Puede ser difícil ser quien eres.

A veces eres tú que es tu peor enemigo o mayormente, la gente a tu alrededor de ti, como tu familia o tus amigos, aunque te digan que te quieren.

Tal vez tengas sueños en los que quieres renunciar a tu trabajo para viajar por el mundo o empezar otro trabajo. No importa qué sea. La verdad es que tienes que seguir tu camino, no importa dónde te dirija el camino. Pero hay gente que no puede entender lo que dices o lo que quieres hacer. Hay gente que no quiere hacerlo. Y hay gente que tiene miedo de lo que tú quieres hacer en tu vida. No en su vida. Tu vida.

Por ejemplo, si quieres dejar un buen trabajo que has tenido durante algunos años, pero ahora ya no te motiva, tal vez piensen o te digan “¿por qué dejarías algo bueno por algo desconocido con todos los riesgos?” Si has decidido hacer algo así, es como si estuvieras cuestionando la vida que ellos han elegido. Es suficiente para ellos. Entonces, ¿por qué no es suficiente para ti? ¿Quién te crees que eres? ¿Piensas que eres mejor que nosotros?

Preguntas y pensamientos así están llenos de miedo. Como un perro, la gente así responde con ataques para protegerse. No son personas malas. Normalmente, son amigos o familiares que quieren protegerte, pero, cuídate, si estás siempre rodeado de gente así, podría tener un efecto negativo en tu vida y en tus decisiones.

Sabemos todos que no podemos cambiar lo que hacen otras personas. Podemos cambiar solo como respondemos y lo que hacemos nosotros. Tal vez, un amigo o un familiar no pueda entender lo que quieres hacer, pero esto no es necesario. Lo que es importante y necesario es que nos apoye en lo que queramos hacer.

Entonces, ¿qué puedes hacer?

Encuentra tu gente.

Siempre hay gente a la que no le gustas o no te apoya. Pues, si puedes, sácalos de tu vida. Esta gente no es tu gente. Necesitas personas que te apoyan, aunque no te entiendan. Eso es el amor de un amigo o un familiar. ¡Gente así es tu gente!

Si nos focalizamos en cosas o personas negativas, recibimos algo negativo. Y claro, igualmente, si nos focalizamos en algo o alguien positivo, recibimos algo positivo. Por ejemplo, ¿cómo te sientes después de pasar una noche con un amigo o familiar que se queja todo el tiempo? Cansado, harto y negativo. Y probablemente, no querrás ver a este amigo nunca más.

Y con un amigo que te pregunta sobre tu vida o quiere ponerse al día contigo o te hace reír, ¿cómo te sentirías? Probablemente, feliz, relajado y positivo. Claro no podemos ser felices y positivos todo el tiempo, eso no sería realista, pero entiendes lo que digo. Pero como todo en la vida, encontrar tu gente necesita un poco de esfuerzo. Tienes que buscar en todos los lugares y además estar abierto a toda la gente porque a veces, puede sorprenderte.

Es importantísimo poder hablar y pasar tiempo con gente como tú. Gente que tenga los mismos pensamientos para hacerte sentir que eres ‘normal’, lo que sea que eso signifique. No tendrías que luchar y justificar nunca más todo lo que crees, dices y haces. Podrías ser tú mismo. Tal vez, por primera vez en tu vida.

Y eso merecería la pena, ¿no?


Fotos por Kimson Doan y Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash


Do Your Thing, Then Step Back

I recently spent a few months travelling across the USA and one of my favourite places was the rather laidback city of Portland, Oregon. There is a thriving food, art, music and craft beer scene and it’s also renowned for its slightly hippyness. What’s not to like?

Maybe I could sense something in the air, but it was while wandering around this wonderful city that I started thinking about the words ‘Do your work and then step back’ by Lao Tzu, the founder of Taoism. 

From my point of view, everything gets done and works well in Portland but there seems to be this wonderful consciousness there that whatever you are doing, your intention is to do it well even if it takes a little longer and this includes everything from working on one of the infamous (and rather fabulous) food trucks to making coffee which is practically an art form there.

Yes of course, there are the overly pretentious, hipster places as depicted in TV comedy Portlandia, but it’s even the ‘regular Joe’ coffee shops where there is a sense of pride in everyday work. Community is very important there and after only a few days you really notice it. Portland has a downtown/centre, but the heart of the city is not there, but in the thriving centre of each local neighbourhood.

One of the barmen I met there said one night: ‘The slower you chill the ice, the fewer bubbles you get and you have clear ice’
or as I interpreted it:
‘The more slowly and mindfully you live your life, the fewer obstacles there are and so, the clearer things become.’

Being in Portland reminded me of the benefits of being more conscious and mindful of things you do each day, however small they may seem. It doesn’t have to take time, just a momentary awareness and focus on what you’re doing. A kind of mindful meditation I guess.

It was lovely hanging out in Portland and I can see why people want to live there. It’s a quietly inspirational place which encourages you to do your own thing in your own way whatever that may be. Again, what’s not to like?

When Was Your Last First Day At School?

It’s September and that time of year again when children are going back to school so we know that summer is now officially over, but it’s lovely seeing photos on Facebook of children in new school uniforms taken by their proud parents.

I know it’s something that we have all gone through, but spare a thought for them as they face new beginnings in their young lives. How brave are they to go to ‘big school’ on the first day? What must they be thinking? Maybe they have a friend or two or family there already or maybe they love school anyway, but fundamentally they are being left ‘alone’ for the first time in their lives. It must be terrifying!

My point here isn’t simply nostalgia, but to consider the value of being so set in our routines that we dare not do anything differently that might challenge us a little too much and get us out of our trusted comfort zones.

So, ask yourself ‘When were you last as courageous as these young children?’ Or perhaps ‘when was your last first day at school’?

Now Is The Best Place To Be

It’s Thursday, so it’s podcast day here at Away From The Noise and today I’m in Greenwich in London.

Before I moved to Spain 18 months ago, I lived here for 3 years and Greenwich is without doubt my most favourite part of London. As a tourist or resident, it really is something special.

And that is kind of what this week’s podcast is about – the pros and cons of living in the past, present and future. By the title of this podcast, you might already have an idea of where I’m going with this.

As always, the podcast is like the best pop singles – inspirational and just a few minutes long.

Listen to Episode 6 – Now Is The Best Place To Be (Ep6)

Happy listening!


10 Ways To Find More Time 

How can you get things done when you are being pulled in different directions? How can you make time for family, work, friends and other interests?

Managing time can be a challenge, so here are a few pointers that have been helpful to my coaching clients over the past few years. I hope they help you achieve what you want to achieve:

    • Do something now. However small, action breeds more action
    • Break down big projects into smaller, achievable-sized steps
    • Say ‘no’ when necessary. You can’t keep everybody happy. Take control to achieve what you want
    • Do the most important and challenging thing in your day first
    • Review your to-do list every day. Set achievable deadlines
    • Set time aside to answer your emails and calls when you choose
    • Work when you are at your best. Are you an early bird or night owl?
    • Clear your mental and physical space to focus and be more productive. Clear your desk. Meditate or go and have a coffee to get some personal ‘headspace’
    • Manage your time. It’s precious. Use it wisely
    • Before your day starts, take 20mins to plan it. Where do you want to be at the end of your day? What do you want to have achieved?
Begin with the end in mind (Stephen Covey) 

Things Are Looking Up (And Down And All Around)

It’s Thursday, so it’s podcast day here at Away From The Noise and today we’re in the beautiful city of Valencia.

This week’s podcast was inspired by almost literally bumping into the National Ceramics Museum based here and how we need to be more aware and connected with our surroundings to live more happily.

As always, the podcast is like the best pop singles – inspirational and about 3 minutes long.

Listen to Episode 3 of the podcast – Things Are Looking Up (And Down And All Around)

Happy listening!


How To Get Lost And Love It

Have you ever got lost? And then got annoyed with yourself? Well, now you don’t have to! If you listen to my latest podcast, you can find out how getting lost can be a good thing.

Just like the best pop singles, my podcasts are about 3 minutes long, so will take you no time at all. This one was also recorded in a park in Madrid, so is my first ‘outside broadcast’.

Go on. You know you want to.

I hope you like it and also hope it gets you away from the noise.

Listen to ‘How To Get Lost And Love It’