I’m So Bored Of Goals

I’ve always been a great believer in the power of setting goals as they really help focus your mind on where you want to be and what you want to achieve in your life. 

However recently I’ve been thinking a great deal about now. This very moment. And as each second passes, yes, we could be one step closer to our goals, but achieving that is in the future and not now, so in truth we are also losing opportunities to live now, where we are physically, emotionally, spiritually and psychologically.

We cannot control the past as it’s been and gone and although our society seems transfixed on living and achieving things in our futures, it hasn’t happened yet and we have limited control over it. What is happening now, at this very moment, is surely more important than preparing for a tomorrow that in truth may never arrive.

Mrs Away From The Noise and I recently got a dog (Grace) and it has been a tremendous learning curve, as well as being fun, however one of the things I’ve noticed most about Grace is how in the moment she is. Nothing exists beyond now. It’s a wisdom which pets and children instinctively share and is something I’m quite envious of at times.

Clearly, there is a time and place for goals in our lives, but I just wanted to highlight the importance of being aware of and enjoying who we are, who we are with and what we are doing right now. While we still have the chance…

Feature image by Cengizahn Konuş/Unsplash
Image of Grace below by Mrs Away From The Noise

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Grace being wise… and just a bit cute… 




The Smaller The Step, The Greater The Progress

Just over 3 months ago, I started doing sit-ups and press-ups to get fitter and instead of the random ‘whenever I feel like it ie hardly ever’ strategy I had previously used, I thought I’d do something different and do 1 more of each every day as this seemed achievable. I chose not to focus on the end result much further down the road, but simply the task ahead.

I started with 10 per day and just before Christmas, I reached 100 and felt better, both physically and psychologically as I’d set myself a goal and achieved it especially as to be honest at the beginning I didn’t think I would be able to. I took a break over the holiday and will be starting again today.

As the new year begins, many of us start with the best intentions but are often over-ambitious and don’t achieve what we want as we were not being realistic. Although choosing smaller steps may not seem as dramatic, they are usually far more effective in the longer term. The smaller and more achievable the step forward is, the greater the progress you make as you’re achieving more.
Less is more…
With my sit-ups and press-ups, I chose one more of each, but depending on what you want to achieve, it could of course be ‘one’ less. It just needs to be one small, manageable step forwards to where you want to be. The focus is on what you will do now and today as opposed to what you are going to achieve in the future.
So, with this in mind, what’s your ‘small step’ going to be?

How Do You Know What You Want (And What You Can Do To Get It)?

How do you want your life to be? In 10 years? 5 years? 1 year? 6 months?

Most people know what they don’t want – I don’t want to work in a dead-end job, I don’t want to be broke etc.

However on being asked what they do actually want, other than perhaps a generic ‘win the lottery or live abroad’ sentiment, they often don’t know specifics and this is because people rarely spend time considering what it is they actually want to achieve. In fact, it could be argued that many people spend more time planning their holidays or birthday parties than they do planning their life.

So, with this in mind, if you would like to know more precisely what you want from life so you can then take steps to make them happen, what’s stopping you putting some time aside to do just that?

If you had no limitations nor barriers, what would you like to do? This is your chance to let rip. Go for it. At this stage, we don’t have to be remotely practical or realistic. That can come later.

Consider absolutely anything that you want to or have always wanted to do. There maybe naysayers who say that this is ridiculous and that you have to be practical and I agree. Just not yet. Let’s give our dreams a moment to shine first. We will be practical later and we need to be because without that dose of reality, many hopes and dreams will remain unrealised.

Think about the things you have always wanted to do – speak a language, get a new job, start a business, write a book or move to a new country, though note they don’t have to be ‘big’ things, just things that you have always wanted to do. Maybe you want to have a day off from work to do some gardening, cook a recipe you’ve always been meaning to try out or just sit down and have the time to read your favourite book.

Write a list. Write down everything you have thought about. Maybe it’s a couple or maybe 20 things. Just get it down.

Now go through your list and consider each and every item on it for a moment. So many people shoot down their own and others’ ideas for a thousand so-called practical reasons, so aim to give each ‘dream’ a moment to breathe.

Even for just a moment, give yourself the permission to believe that your dreams could be possible and achievable.

Visualise each one. What can you see? Smell? Hear? Where are you? Who are you with? What are you actually doing? Enjoy the moment.

Once you have taken the time to do that, now think about this – what are the 3 most important things on your list that you really want to achieve? Which 3 resonate with you having been through this exercise?

After having clarified that, what one thing (however small) could you do today to move you forward to making each of these three things happen?

None of the above may be an ‘easy’ thing to do, but what of value is?

(This post was inspired one of my readers who recently asked ‘It’s all well and good being positive and achieving what you want? But how do I know what I want? It’s so difficult to know.’ I hope I’ve answered your question)