It got me thinking about whether we are in fact ever ‘ready’ to do anything? For example, to start the business we’ve always wanted? Change jobs? Emigrate? Travel round the world? Or have children?
We can all prepare, save and plan but how will we know we are ‘ready’?
If you wanted to travel the world, would it simply be about how much money you had to pay for it? When do you know you are ready to change jobs? When you go to work and your day is so bad you come home in tears? What will need to have happened for you make that decision? What’s stopping you starting whatever it is now and perhaps learning and getting better on the way instead of waiting for that ‘one day’ or ‘perfect moment’ to arrive.
There’s a lovely story I recall reading about in Alain De Botton’s book ‘The Art Of Travel’ where a 17th century Dutch nobleman had a room in his house dedicated to England. It was full of memorabilia, paintings and books. His ‘England room’ and he loved it.
After a few years and as he was a gentleman of means, he thought he would visit the England he loved, so very soon he was on his way looking forward to seeing the England of his dreams.
However, en route he started thinking that the reality may not be like the England in his room. Maybe it wouldn’t be as beautiful as his paintings nor as interesting as his books and so, he turned round and went back home. Back to his home. And his England room. He was happy with the country he had created in his mind and wasn’t interested in ‘spoiling’ this with the reality.
My point here is that there can be a lot of social pressure to make our dreams happen and that if we don’t, we have somehow failed. However, what’s important is to clarify what you want to happen and what you are prepared to do to make it happen.
Some people are simply happy with the idea of something. A dream. And that is a lovely thing. If it works for you as it did for our 17th century nobleman, but what do you do if you want to make this dream real?
Of course there are many things for which we can prepare. For example, driving lessons for a driving test, but sometimes, we use not being ‘ready’ as an excuse to not only not do something now, but not ever.
Surely, if we really wanted to make something happen, we would do whatever we could to make it happen. Yes, procrastination can be an issue, sometimes things don’t go our way and not everything is possible (for example, I’d love to be 6’2 and that’s not happening anytime soon), but we can take steps towards something, however small they may seem at first.
“Imperfect progress today or perfect progress tomorrow?” @leadershipfreak